
By: Frances Alicea
Myself
- By exercising 2-3 times a week, walking to school, and eating nutritious food are ways that take care of myself. I also enjoy watching TV and body cam footage. I do this as a way to relax and wind down. I go to therapy, and I try to make sure I don’t stretch myself too thin. Journaling is also another way I wind down, as it helps me organize my thoughts and analyze my feelings. I still enjoy being involved in politics and the news because I believe it’s a privilege not to have to worry about the news. Therefore, I try to educate myself about policies and ongoing issues to avoid the ignorant American stereotype.
- I talk with my mom at least once a week. My mom has always been a rock for me, but during college, it has become more apparent.
- Taking time to sleep and rest. Also, I keep myself accountable with my schoolwork. It’s easy in college to fall behind and distract yourself, so it’s important not to seek instant gratification
My inner circle
- Responding to texts and calls (I used to be bad at that)
- Telling stories and reaching out to just tell my friends that I miss them, or I want to hang out.
- By listening and doing favors for my friends without expecting anything in return
- Respecting and listening to boundaries or problems that a friend may have
- I got a cat in October, and it feels good to care for something and have something to love me. I didn’t expect college to make me ‘motherly,’ but it has. It gives me a sense of routine and a reason to be better
My community
- I try to learn people’s names in my classes and facts about them. I volunteer outside of class, and I am doing research with UROP to determine how AI can benefit undergrads with disabilities. I am also involved in PRSA, and I’m serving as the community service chair for them. This is important to me because I can be a part of something that contributes to my identity and also serves my community. I think I have a strong sense of community since I have always been close with my peers.
The World
- I try to help the world by recycling, educating myself on what is going on throughout it. I have a strong moral compass and I use it to guide me and make decisions about the world around me.
- I love exploring everything Mother Nature has to offer and taking care of her back. I have always been an empathic person, even since I was a child, so I have had to try not to let my emotions guide me all the time, because carrying everyone’s pain will only hurt me.
- I am constantly learning from others, school, and my community about other cultures, people, and other schools of thought. Throughout my learning process, I have learned how to be respectful about others’ ideas and beliefs without sacrificing my own.
Thanks for sharing such an honest and thoughtful reflection. I really admire how you balance staying informed with protecting your peace — your point about staying educated as a privilege really hit home. I also related to what you said about becoming more “motherly” in college. It’s amazing how routines like caring for a pet or checking in with friends can ground us.
Your self-awareness about empathy and emotional boundaries is something I’m still working on myself. This post reminded me how important it is to care without carrying everything alone.
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